People Pleasing and Trauma
Did you know that people pleasing is a trauma response? Yes. All the ways that you bend over backwards for others, deplete and neglect yourself to make them happy, and struggle to say no, are actually traits that are associated with trauma and are often linked to something from your past.
How to Let Go
Have you ever held onto something so tight, it’s as if it causes you more pain to keep it than it does to let it go?
Redefining Your Rules
We have rules… sounds weird right? Why would we have a set of rules that we operate by?
I see my brothers as loving, gentle, nerdy, musical geniuses. To the world, they’re just black men, a potential threat. Our skin is seen as a threat. And yet we operate in the world with a welcoming smile.
I find it interesting the groupthink that can exist in dynamics. It’s as if the moment an opposing view enters the mix it’s too much. It’s too different.
I Wasn’t Feeling 22
I think it’s safe to say I fell off this blog for about a year. Shameful, I know. I celebrated my 24th birthday a few weeks ago and I have to say… I spent 23 recovering from how rough 22 was! This past year has been a roller coaster for me. I’m a little less…
Let me tell you about a friend of mine. She refers to herself as a man-eater. And while it may seem like a really harsh term, I think after everything she’s been through, this period in her life is totally justified. Now I know there are some women out there who are always man-eaters. They…
How Do You Cope?
Getting over someone is almost like doing mental gymnastics. There are a lot of hurdles and hoops to jump through just to feel like you’ll eventually be okay. It’s like you have to convince yourself that things will get better. You have to tell yourself that all the tears, pain and lack of sleep will…
Does the Person Who Cares Less Win?
There are people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, and there are others who keep their feelings hidden. I’m all for proceeding with caution when you first meet someone but at what point does it go from protecting yourself to having a wall up? Of course no one wants to get hurt. The thought…